My fertility journey has been my life’s greatest challenge. Ever since I was a little girl I’ve always dreamt of being a mother,but life doesn’t always go to plan.
This is my story, with its tight turns and steep slopes. Strap yourself in and get ready to ride the ups and downs of my fertility roller-coaster.
We are engaged!
We are engaged! Yay! We decide to start trying for babies. We work with our fabulous naturopath, Tabitha McIntosh in the hope of getting our bodies in tiptop baby-making shape.
With no sign of a baby on the way
With no sign of a baby on the way we visit a Fertility Specialist who informs us that with my low ovarian reserve our chances of conceiving with IVF or naturally are only 1%. He recommends investigatory surgery immediately.
Hysteroscopy and laparoscopy surgery
Hysteroscopy and laparoscopy surgery to look for endometriosis or any other problems. All clear (pristine was the doc’s report). We were told to go away and try naturally for 3 months.
IVF #1 - Still no news on the baby-making front, we jump into our first IVF cycle. We retrieve 3 eggs, but only 1 egg fertilises. Transfer done, but it’s a negative result.
IVF #2 – Cancelled cycle due to low estrogen.
IVF #3 – We get 1 egg, it fertilises and we transfer the day after our house is flooded. We get a negative result - 3 days after Christmas.
IVF #4 – 1 egg collected, but no fertilisation, therefore no transfer.
IVF #5 - Cancelled cycle due to high estrogen on first blood test. We start working with our amazing natural fertility specialist, Elizabeth Mucci.
IVF #6 - The worst retrieval eve, when we were delivered the news that they couldn’t retrieve any eggs. WTF! Our doctor recommends donor eggs as our best way forward and we decide to seek other opinions. We are not ready to give up on our own eggs yet. My mum and I take off for Miami and New York. In Miami I visit a natural fertility clinic for treatment. In New York I talk to 2 IVF doctors about doing IVF there (at this stage we decide to continue treatment in Australia, we weren’t convinced New York had anything new to offer).
We decide no more IVF for now
We decide no more IVF for now, we’ll continue working with our natural fertility specialist, and give the natural therapy from Miami a chance to have effect.
Still no baby in sight
Still no baby in sight, we decide its time to try our hand at IVF once again with a new fertility specialist.
IVF #7 – Our new fertility specialist wants us to try Natural IVF. Everything is looking perfect up to retrieval, it’s a dream cycle hormonally and we come crashing down once again when we are delivered the news we got no eggs.
IVF #8 and #9
IVF #8 – I’m the chick with no eggs once again. For the third time we get no eggs at retrieval time. IVF #9 – My gorgeous angel sister donates her eggs to us. For the first time ever we have 4 frozen embryos. I’m not ready to give up on my eggs yet, so for now our 4 little frosties are in safe keeping.
IVF #10 – For the 4th time we are devastated with no eggs at retrieval time.
Still no baby on board, we decide to shake things up and venture overseas for 6 months (after all everyone advised us a good holiday is just what we need to fall pregnant!) We have friends getting married in Boracay and England and we then visit my brother and his girlfriend in London. We spend the summer travelling Europe to escape our baby blues – its complete bliss…
Back in Sydney we reassess our options
Back in Sydney we reassess our options and decide it might be time to start thinking about our next steps - using our donor eggs.
Amazing new fertility specialist
We visit an amazing new fertility specialist and he said ‘we need to get you pregnant’, 5 years is too long. We talk about using our frozen embryos, but first we’ll try one last time with my own eggs.
IVF #11 – After 22 days injecting myself with FSH, our cycle is cancelled due to low estrogen levels.
IVF #12 and IVF #13
IVF #12 – We make it to retrieval and once again get no eggs for the 5th time… We will never go through IVF with my own eggs again – we cannot put ourselves through this again. We decide to accept the gift of my sister’s eggs. IVF#13 - My gorgeous sister wants to do one more round of IVF for us before her 40th birthday in Noosa. We are so blessed to have her. This time we get 2 frozen embryos. We now have 6 Sprouts on ice.
We transfer 2 embryos, but unfortunately…
We transfer 2 embryos, but unfortunately it’s not our time and it’s a negative pregnancy. Through the sadness of this day there is much celebration as my Pete graduates with his MBA (so proud). We start a new donor cycle ready to transfer 2 of our embryos. Unfortunately my hormones are crazy and erratic and my transfer is cancelled.